This thing called ‘TRUST’. When you let down all your guards and rely on someone’s ability to catch you when you fall. Not just ‘someone’, but an individual who occupies a special spot in your fragile heart. Far from it that you allowed a total stranger into your home, life and heart. You were cautious enough. This is someone who eats and dines with you, knows you in-and-out, knows your strengths and weaknesses, supports your vision, detests your enemies even more than you do, perhaps someone you grew up with. Over the years, this person has proven beyond all reasonable doubt that he/she is trustworthy. Indeed, the individual ‘earned’ your attention and won your friendship because of his/her endearing transparent qualities. Most times, the individual could be your lovely dad, mum or sibling snatched away by the cold hands of death, just when you needed them the most. He or she died mysteriously and you don’t have the slightest idea of where to get a reliable explanation. On the other hand, you might just have realized that your ‘beloved’ mum is the cause of all your life grief and setback. You thought you had a beautiful promising future together, but it has been cut short suddenly. You had plans of starting a big business, building a house, relocating abroad or even starting your beautiful family. At first, it was all rosy.
And just at the point where you thought you had it all planned out and calculated, he/she stabs you behind your back. Some term it ‘heartbreak’, though it can manifest in different forms. What did you do wrong? ‘Do you deserve it?’, you keep asking yourself and any other who cares enough to give a listening ear. This cutting pain is unbearable. Your heart is bleeding.
Then come the moments of profuse shedding of tears, loss of appetite, loss of weight, sleepless nights, lack of concentration, helplessness, screaming and wailing, solitude and heaviness of the heart. You lose your mind, your sanity. No consolation or comforting words can hold back the tears. Even in public, the tears are uncontrollable. This is someone whom you have lost, gone, never to be seen again. Gone with the wind, not to be accepted again. Literally, your support system has been attacked. You wished it never happened. You doubt and question what has happened, you don’t believe it, you have several wishes and regrets…things you were meant to do before the occurrence, flashbacks of the painful sacrifices you have had to make, all the good times you had together, the cheerful moments, the promises, the dreams you had together, the vision you pursued together as a formidable team, but now, you are left all by yourself in the middle of nowhere, that there’s no going forward or return. The heart of men is wicked indeed. What will you recount: the wasted years, the resources, the deceit, the betrayal? You know it’s said: ‘Someone who takes you for granted and loses you eventually, does not know your worth really’. For these passing days and months, vexation and mood swings get frequent. All you want to do is cuddle and be withdrawn to yourself, be left alone, but will that really help? Yes, you need the solitary reflective moments, but don’t overstretch them and tend to lose focus on the BIGGER PICTURE. Do not give consent to the thought of hurting yourself in anyway whatsoever. It’s not worth it. Do not get things more complicated than they are already. C’mon, hold yourself together. Pick the pieces and start afresh. You are more than that. You are beautiful, handsome and strong. You deserve better! Arise and shine. Life is sweet, enjoy it. NO ONE has a hold on your happiness except yourself. No one is permitted to harass your life. Be happy.
It’s a huge setback, granted. But, recognize that it’s an attack on your FAITH. Don’t fall for it. Yes, you can and will survive the great blow. Do not pray to have the experience. Though, it’s not easy, spring back to your feet, greater and better days are ahead! Turn to God! He alone can be your comfort. Cry on His shoulders, lift ALL the burden and heaviness and put on Him. Talk to Him, He will heal you. God wants you STRONG. He alone can salvage the situation because He is the ONLY true comforter. He will NEVER leave your side.
TRUST NO ONE!